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Healing Childhood Trauma
Welcome to Healing Childhood Trauma for Millennial Women where healing meets growth. The podcast where we deep dive into healing from the past, overcoming high functioning anxiety and attachment to have better relationships with ourselves and others.
I'm Lizandra Leigertwood, a psychotherapist and relationship therapist who specialises in childhood trauma in adults helping you to transform the relationship you have with yourself and others.
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Healing Childhood Trauma
Why Self-Soothing Feels So Hard When You Have Anxious Attachment [Ep 32]
If you’ve ever stared at your phone waiting for a reply, heart racing, telling yourself not to text again but feeling like you physically can’t relax until they do — this episode is for you.
Self-soothing gets talked about a lot in the healing space… but for those with anxious attachment, it can feel almost impossible. In this episode, we unpack why that is — and what self-soothing actually looks like when you’re healing attachment wounds.
👉🏽 If this hits close to home, my 90-minute 1:1 Attachment Reset session is designed to support you in moments just like this. Learn more or book here.
In this episode, we explore:
💬 What self-soothing really is (and what it’s not)
🧠 Why it feels unsafe when you’re anxiously attached
📱 Why you can’t just “put the phone down” when you’re spiraling
🧘🏽♀️ What self-soothing can look like in practice — and why it’s not about fixing yourself
🌱 How to start small and build capacity gently, without shame
You’ll leave with a deeper understanding of your nervous system, why you crave connection so intensely, and how to start creating a sense of safety within yourself — even when someone else feels just out of reach.